Hubby and I got married in 2001 and about two years later we decided to try and conceive. We weren’t necessarily serious about conceiving at this stage, we just thought we would see what happens. In the months that followed I began to experience terrible period pain and my mom encouraged me to go and see a fertility specialist. In October 2003 I had my first laparoscope and was diagnosed with stage four endometriosis. My fertility specialist recommended some treatment and we began using clomid. Unfortunately we had no luck and I decided to get a second opinion.
My second fertility specialist recommended that I have a second laparoscope and some blood tests. I was told that the endometriosis had caused a lot of damage and I also had a high level of FSH (Follicle stimulating hormone), this indicated that the quality of my eggs was questionable. He recommended that we try IVF as soon as possible.
In 2005 we did IVF one and IVF two and got negative results for both. Our Fertility Specialist suggested that we use donor eggs as my eggs did not seem to be good quality. This was really hard to swallow at the age of 27.
Our clinic found an egg donor for us in early 2006, a woman that was currently going through IVF and wanted to share her eggs. We got five eggs from her, unfortunately none of them fertilised.
By this stage we decided that we needed a break. We were broke and emotionally we had had enough. In 2008 we started to discuss doing another IVF again. We looked for a donor through an agency and found one that looked exactly like me when I was a baby. We were excited and hopeful.
I will never forget that day that I looked at that positive pregnancy test; or the moment that I stared at the positive lab result I got when I went for my blood test. Unfortunately it was not meant to be. We lost the pregnancy and we were devastated.
Once we had recovered we decided to go forward with an FET (Frozen Embryo Transfer) as we had four embryos left over from our last IVF………..negative. We decided to try one more time with a new egg donor, but our sixth IVF also produced negative results.
We decided that we had to move on. We had spent enough money on fertility treatment and we had lost all hope that IVF would work for us. We agreed that we would pursue adoption and our hearts were at peace with that decision.
By the end of 2010 our adoption screening was over and we were officially on the waiting list. I joked that we could consider ourselves ‘pregnant’, it was just the length of the pregnancy that would be different.
We were lucky and we got the call on the 20 September 2011. A birth mother had chosen our profile and the baby was being born on the 24th September. The feeling was OVERWHELMING, AMAZING and very very SUREAL.
Our beautiful baby boy was born on the 24th September. I can still remember the first time I saw him. He was so perfect and so beautiful and I couldn’t believe that this was really happening to us.
Adoption has lead us to a beautiful place with a beautiful family. Our eight year journey here was hard and very painful, but we would do it all again for our precious son.